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November 2, 2016, 4:54 PM

Worry...let's stop the insanity!

One defintion of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Let's say you decide to bang your head on a brick wall. You will discover that this hurts. You aren't convinced so you do it a second time. You find out that there's a pattern here. When you headbutt the brick wall there's a thing called pain that wraps itself around your head. If you do it the third time and expect it not to hurt you are insane. 

When I worry it can be labeled as insanity. When I worry nothing changes. Then I try it again. I worry and nothing changes. Well, I might as well try it again. I worry and guess what...nothing changes. It's insanity. 

Jesus said it like this in Matthew 6:27, "Can any of you by worring add a single hour to your life?" In other words, worrying adds no positive changes to your life. Let me just give you a real-life example from my own life. 

My wife had a surgery. She was going to be without work for six to eight weeks...and of course it ended up being eight...Murphy's Law. I worried for a long time about it, but nothing was changing. I sat down with my wife and we decided that we would give it to God and not worry about it. The worrying for weeks didn't change anything, but the trust sure did. We ended up with enough money to pay all of our bills plus some. Money came in from different areas and God really blessed us. The worry didn't do anything but give us headaches and stress, but the trust in God was rewarded by Him. 

So another time of worry set in. We had a couple of bills come in that were larger than normal. I instantly went into panic mode. I began to worry. My stress level and blood pressure went way up. What did it change? Well, it did change my blood pressure numbers but that was it. My wife was the one that spoke some sense into me this time. She reminded me what I had reminded her of several weeks before...God would take care of us and He did. 

This is more of what Jesus said in Matthew 6...So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’  For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:31-33

Worrying isn't helping you and it sure isn't helping me. So why don't we just agree to stop it. It's not changing anything but our stress level and it's just doing us no good. How about we just decide to trust God. Notice that word, decide. It's not natural to trust God. It's natural to worry, fret, stress, and freak out when something is out of our control. If we want something better in life we have to do what is unnatural to us. If we want a different result in our life we can't keep doing the same thing and expecting something different. Remember...that's called insanity! 

October 26, 2016, 3:45 PM

More Than Bible Study

I lead a small group that meets in our home every other week. I started it with the idea that I could help a group of people become closer to God and know their Bible better. These are two great things. These are good goals. But when you put a group of people together you never know what will happen. If people are anything they are unpredictable. Just like ole Forrest said they are like a box of never know what you're gonna get. 

At times I've found myself a bit frustrated about our group. I really wanted to teach them some really important things. We start at 7...well, that's the goal. By the time everyone rolls in we usually start 15-20 minutes late. We eat and talk. People bring their kids so they feed their kids, then sit down to eat, and by the time we get done eating and talking and get down to some actual Bible study. I look at the clock and it's after 8 pm. I want to get done by 8:30 so people can get their kids to bed. Ugh. Then I began to think about this. Maybe this group is much more than a Bible study. 

I watch people interact and share their lives. Moms sharing with moms, dads with dads. I listen to people laugh and carry on and hold each others' babies. We show each other dumb YouTube videos and share funny stories. I'm beginning to see that this group is way more than a Bible study. In some ways it's a support group. It's not for anything specific like drugs or alcohol or divorce, but it's just a support group for life. We do some Bible study, but recently I've just been encouraging them to share what's on their mind...Bible questions, life questions, whatever. That's been really good. 

Do they need to understand the Bible better? Absolutely. But maybe we are doing more Bible study than I give us credit for. We may not be always reading the Bible verse by verse but by the fellowship, the breaking of bread, the prayer and the sharing we are living out the Bible. What I see happening is a lot like what I see the early church doing in Acts chapter two. I see unity, I see fellowship, I see support, I see outreach, I see's good stuff. 

What I had in mind hasn't really happened, but what has happened is so much better. What we intend to happen doesn't always happen...sometimes God does something way better. So if things aren't going quite as planned take a step back and try to see where God is working. 

October 19, 2016, 3:55 PM

How Do We Know It's A Win?

Last night I got the pleasure of opening my home up to a Cubs fan so they could watch the game and the Cubs lost. Good times, good times. A win is very easy to define in baseball. There's something called a final score. Last night the final score was 6-0 in favor of the Los Angeles Dodgers. The scoring in baseball is called, runs, and whoever has the most wins the game. The same is true in basketball and football with points and in hockey with goals. In golf it's a little different, because the lowest score wins. When you play Monopoly you count up your and properties...and you know you've won if you have the most. In, horse,'s whoever gets to the finish line first that wins. It's all pretty clear-cut. 

But how do you know you are winning at life? 

Maybe it's the one with the most toys. Maybe it's the person who has the larger number in their bank account. Maybe it's the person who owns the most land. Maybe it's the best looking person or the most famous. Maybe it's the person with the most power or the highest political office. 

At youth group we've gone through a series of videos called, I Am Second. These are video testimonials by many famous people. Some are Olympic athletes, professional athletes, coaches, actors and actresses, musicians, fighters, models, and other more common people. There seems to be a pattern in most every video I've watched and I've watched several. First of all, there's the attempt at winning. They want to be successful, they want to be happy, so they pursue what they think will make them happy. Many of these people on these videos have acheived amazing levels of sucess. There are gold medals, big record deals, championships, TONS of money and fame...these people became a big deal. Secondly, they found out that they were unhappy. The lure of all the earthly stuff, both clearly sinful and not, was too much. The promise of happiness was too much and they fell for it. They were miserable. They were discontent. They were depressed and sad. Thirdly, they found that when they gave their lives to God they were truly happy. Their relationship with God brought them peace. They felt a sense of joy that they never had. 

A win in life is a little more mysterious. We have so many voices coming our way telling us what a win looks like. In baseball it's so simple, score more runs, in life it's just not this clear-cut. Well, it's not until you open up the Bible. 

In Ecclesiastes 2 Solomon goes on a journey to discover what a win is. This is what he writes in Ecclesiasts 2:1, "I said to myself, 'Come now, I will test you with pleasure to find out what is good." What Solomon was saying was, "Let's discover what a win in life really looks like." So he attained everything you could imagine...women, alcohol, money, servants, bands...if you can think of it he got it. Then when he looked at his life he described his pursuit as a "chasing after the wind." (Eccl. 2:11)

Here is what he discovered a win really was. A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? (Eccl. 2:24-25)

Here is Billy's translation of what he discovered was a win. 

1. Enjoy the simple things in life. Be happy you have food and drink...enjoy it. Enjoy your work. Enjoy the people you are around. Enjoy your family, your friends, your neighbors. It's all about people anyway. 

2. Love and serve God. A relationship with God gives meaning and purpose to everything. You won't really enjoy anything in life for any amount of time if you don't have your relationship with God right. 

A win in life may appear to be a whole lot harder to define than a win in baseball. But when we stop to consider the wisdom of Solomon it's really not that tough. 

Go get a "W" today! 

October 11, 2016, 2:23 PM

Who's To Blame? (move on)

When something bad happens and the finger is pointed at us we go into defensive blame mode. I don't know if this is what it is really called, but it's what I call it. We immediately get defensive whether we are guilty or not. If we are guilty we almost immediately look for someone to blame. I did it, can fill in the blanks. They were driving too fast. My dad wasn't good to me. We were raised so poor. I have this condition. You don't understand these people. It isn't my job. Oh, the blame game can be quite extensive and complicated. 

I have an idea. Stay with me because it's a really complicated, drawn out proposition that may just cause you to have a migraine headache as you ask Siri for answers. Here it is. Are you ready? Let's take responsiblity for our actions. 

Wow...that was intense, wasn't it? 

Here are three definitons for responsiblity:

1. the state of being the person who caused something to happen

2. a duty or task that you are required or expected to do. 

3. something that you should do because it is morally right, legally required, etc. 

Blame is a lot different than responsbility. Blame is actually the exact opposite of it. When you start blaming you are looking to shift responsbility. It might be called in a more crude sense, "throwing someone under the bus." You are looking to find someone, anyone to take the blame and be responsible. Anyone, that is, except for you. I can see a trend in our culture of doing this. 

I know that not all homes were like my home, but in my home my parents made me take responsbiility. When a teacher or principal would have an issue with me my parents did not defend me. They listened and then came and talked to me. My dad always said, "Who am I going to believe, you or an adult?" So I was taught that I have to take responsibility for my actions. You talk to any teacher or administrator in the school system today and this is not the case. Most parents are taking the side of their child and dismissing anything that either a teacher or principal has to say. It's a really discouraging state of affairs. So what do we do about it? 

*Realize that it's never too late to teach responsibility. I had a mother one time come up to me and was really discouraged over one of her children. She had bailed her child out way too much in the child's life and he very little sense of responsbility. The problem was this "child" was now 35 years old. I told the mom that this was her chance. She realized her mistakes and she could stop them now. Don't bail your child out anymore, but make them pay the piper. You still have a chance to teach a lesson. 

*Demand it from other people. If you are a boss don't let people cast blame around, you make them take responsibility for their actions. If you are a teacher don't settle for excuses. If you are a coach make your players step up and do the right thing. Hold them to their commitments. Don't settle for the blame game. 

*Take responsbility yourself. I looked up the idea of responsbility in the Bible. While the actual word may not be present I found 68 verses that can relate to personal responsibility. When you appear before God you will be held accountable for YOUR life not anyone else's. Set the example in front of your children, your players, your employees, your spouse, your classmates, and your co-workers. Be willing to admit when you are wrong. Be willing to step up and say it was your fault and your fault alone. Be willing to take on a task and complete. Be willing to fix your mistakes. 

I've done my share of running away and blaming others. All it got me in life was deeper in trouble. Move on past the blame game. Step up and take responsibility. Like any new change it may be painful in the beginning, but you will have a much more prosperous life if you do this. Obedience to God always brings healing to your life...ALWAYS. 

October 4, 2016, 3:34 PM

Do What You Can

I love basketball. I love to watch it and I love to play it. The older I get and the stiffer my joints get playing it isn't quite as easy as it used to be but I still enjoy it. Basketball is traditionally a game for taller people. I am not tall. I never was tall and I certainly never will be. I never experienced any growth spurts I grew slowly and not even much of that. I am 5-9 and shrinking. I actually think I measured at just under 5-9 when I was measured last at a doctor's appointment. 

I really wish that I could dunk a basketball. There can be no better feeling in basketball than to break away from the rest of the crowd and dunk a ball with authority. Unless it's a NERF hoop I will never be able to do this. But what if became obsessed with this at an early age. I'm going to run. I'm going to lift weights. I'm going to do specific exercises that will help me jump higher. I'm going to practice how to jump just right with the correct technique. I would be wasting my time. My body is not built to dunk. Spud Webb, who won the 1986 NBA Slam Dunk Contest, was 5-7. While I'm sure he worked on it his body was made to jump that high. His vertical leap was 42 inches, that's three and a half feet. My vertical leap is about 6 inches. It's just not going to happen. So I decided to work on shooting. I was never destined for an NBA career, I mean I barely had a high school career. But I was probably about the best three-point shooter on my team. I decided that I would focus on what I could do not what I can't. 

When Joshua stood up in front of the nation of Israel in Joshua chapter 24 he knew there were things he couldn't do. He knew that he couldn't control the whole nation. He knew he couldn't completely stop the idol worship. He couldn't make every family do what he wanted them to do...serve God. This was the heart of his message to his people near the end of his life,  "But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15

Instead of focusing on the things you CAN'T do why not focus on some things you CAN do. You can't change the world but you might be able to make a difference in your home, your school, your workplace. 

You might not be able to change your whole family, but maybe you can influence your children to serve the Lord. 

Maybe you think this whole country is going down in flames and there's nothing you can do about it. If you live in Ogallala, Nebraska there's probably not much you can do with what might be going on in Miami, Florida, but you can make a difference in Ogallala. You may not be able to do a lot of things, but there's a lot you can do. Focus on that. 

Nick Vujicic can't shake your hand. There's no way he could ever run a 5K. He can't comb his own hair. He can't kick a soccer ball. Nick doesn't have any arms or legs. But Nick is also a Christian motivational speaker and and evangelist. There are a LOT of things that Nick can't do that even the most underacheiving and lazy person can easily do, but he doesn't focus on this. He focuses on what he can do. What he can do is graduate from Griffith University with a Bachelor of Commerce degree with a double major in accounting and financial planning. What he can do is found a motivational speaking company called, Attitude is Altitude. What he can do is get married and have two sons. What he can do is write five books and speak to thousands of youth and adults each year. 

When I think about Nick I think about my life. There are many things I can't do but focusing on this is a total waste of energy and time. I need to focus on what I can do through the grace of God.  You and I might just be surprised how long that list really is. 

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