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March 12, 2015, 5:30 PM

Just Be There

There's a lot to be said about being present...just being there. One of the things I have to do as a minister is be with people when things aren't going well. It might be a visit with them in the hospital. I always find it almost funny that I always ask, "How are you doing?" Isn't that a dumb question? Maybe I should say, "So, exactly how bad off are you?"

You see, the struggle I have is the need to say something. As a preacher I am supposed to have a message, but for some instances there just aren't words. As I preach through a series at church called, Tuff Stuff, I sometimes struggle to find the words to deal with the subject of suffering. What I've learned throughout my years of ministry, sometimes by making some dumb mistakes, is that it's best to just be there. 

You don't have to have the right words or words at all. I have heard people say some really hurtful things to someone who is suffering in an attempt to "help." There's a lot to be said by just being there. Ten years ago I lost my dad. One of my good friends called me and he just couldn't mumbled and stumbled on the phone. It was painfully obvious he had no idea what to say. I just let him off the hook by telling him I was glad that he called and I would talk to him later. 

What meant something to me was not the words that he said, but that he bothered to pick up the phone and call. 

One of our duties as a Christian is to bear each other's burdens. That doesn't mean that we always know what to say. That doesn't mean that we always know exactly what to do. It simply means that we are willing to be there. We are willing to shoulder some of the load are fellow family members are feeling and dealing with it at the time.

Just be there...sometimes that's just enough. 

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